A Fashion Plate’s Friday the 13th Ritual
Happy Friday the 13th, witches!
Forget the Jasons & bad luck curses of the world, in post-patriarchal society, this is a day dedicated to female empowerment.
Why? Friday is the day of the week ruled exclusively by gorgeous goddesses throughout history. People of the ancient world paid tribute to femme deities like Venus, Aphrodite, Ishtar, and Freyja on a weekly basis.
Still, special magic was reserved for Fridays that intersected with the 13th of the month.
The exact significance of the number 13 varies depending on your source material. However, my favorite explanation is that 13 mirrors the approximate number of menstrual cycles lunar-based humans experience over the course of one year.
Whatever the origin, it’s a magnificent day to honor your favorite Friday-ruling goddess through prayer, meditation, or ritual.
Take Freyja, for example…
Played by Sex and the City’s Carrie Bradshaw in the Total Betty Goddess Deck, Freyja is the fashion-plate of the divine world. Not only is she known for her flirtatious, “can’t tie me down” romantic antics, but she also rides a carriage pulled by cats and curses anyone who tries to steal her favorite necklace.
If there was ever a divine template for Carrie Bradshaw’s arc from sex columnist to single cat lady, the Norse goddess of love & fashion is it.
Likewise, other Friday deities like Venus, Aphrodite, and Ishtar LOVE a good aesthetic. Whether it’s a pearl necklace, a sea foam crown, or some well-placed war paint, there’s a reason we instinctively like to get dressed up on a Friday night.
So why not honor Friday the 13th by infusing your fashion with a little magic?
While traditionally the blessing of talismans is reserved for jewelry, I encourage you to think outside the box. Sure, if your go-to frosting just happens to be a necklace, abso-fucking-lutely grab that! But if you’re more of a lipstick, sneakers, or even high heels kind of babe, let your personal style be your guide.
This is a super simple ritual that can be done at any time, but if you have the means to squeeze it in on Fridays, especially those that fall on the 13th of the month, all the more magical.
A Friday Ritual for Fashion Plates
Instructions for Use:
Use when your confidence needs a little boost or you just want special armor for fighting the Patriarchy
What You’ll Need:
Your favorite accessory, clothing, or makeup item
What You’ll Do:
Sit in a quiet space with your item in your lap
Close your eyes and envision the most powerful, confident version of yourself.
Tip: If you struggle to see yourself as confident, picture a powerful femme character, archetype, or person you admire.Hold your accessory of choice in your hands and infuse it with this energy of confidence. Picture an invisible divine force placing the item onto the figure in your mind’s eye and watch your accessory glow with that same energy.
Stay in this meditation for as long as you like. Learn to associate your favorite accessory with this feeling of confidence.
Each time you place this item on your body, both now and in the future, take 10 seconds to remember this vision.
Repeat after smoke cleansing rituals or when you feel the magic of your item waning from repeated use.
Tip: It helps to switch out accessories between rituals to give each item a rest before recharging—it’s also a great excuse to switch up your aesthetic.
“The fact is sometimes it’s hard…
to walk in a single woman’s shoes.
That’s why we need really special ones now and then—
to make the walk a little more fun.”
-Carrie Bradshaw, Sex & the City
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